Which 5 Type Of Guys You Should NeverDate
1. Married men
It’s obvious why dating married men is a bad idea. Falling in love with a guy who already belongs to someone else entails countless painful sacrifices on your part:
You cannot have him all for yourself, you have to keep your affair a secret, you can’t be seen together in public, and he can only call you when he can find the time away from his family and friends. Not to mention all the potential stigmas that could plague you if your relationship is exposed.
2.Dominator
This guy takes an interest in everything you do, from the way you dress, who's in your phone list, the way you arrange your room to how your friends treat you.
At first it may feel wonderful to have this attentive man who genuinely cares about what'sgoing on in your life,.A control freak can be extremely charming in a new relationship, but once he feels secure he starts to become pushy and controlling.
And unless he can control the other person, he fears he will lose her or that his own life will become chaotic.His tyrannical behavior soon makes life miserable for his partner.
"Being a control freak is not about love, although he’ll tell you it is:It’s about power"
3.Broken Heart
He's the guy who seems so sensitive and caring when you first met and tells you the heart-wrenching story of his past broken relationship. And soon you’ll find out that he's still nursing a broken heart from the relationship he had with someone ten years ago.
Face it, if he lives in a haze of self-indulgent gloom and loves the drama of his own misery, you’ll never get through no matter how much time you spend trying to mend his broken heart.So give up and get going.
4. Smoothie
He's suave, sports designer suits, has a glitzy social life, owns an expensive apartment and zips around town in a flashy convertible. He loves lavishing women with lots of attention, and has you feeling like a princess with his constant showers of gifts, flowers and exotic dinners.
Problem is, you may not be the only chick in this Casanova's life. Men like that are very likely to be a misogynist..
and the last 1...
5. The Drain
You'll recognize a Drain because this guy constantly saps you – emotionally,financially and/or physically. He hates his life, can't stop complaining about his job, blames everyone else for his own laziness, and essentially relies on you to bolster his poor self-image.
"Other Drains include men who always seem to be borrowing money because they have maxed out their credit cards, who lose their temper over nothing and use you as an emotional punchbag.
Guys like that are really nothing more than selfish, spoiled whiners who don’t understand the concept of responsibility or self-respect. Get them out of your life and lock the doors.
hmm n i wonder do they have a list for the girls... tt will be interesting to read... cheerz.
Monday, March 31, 2008
Sunday, March 30, 2008
How Lying, Flirting (with Someone Else!) & Fighting Can Make You Closer
Raise your hand if you've ever gotten into a stupid fight with your guy and stormed off in a huff. Or if you get a secret rush from flirting with a cute waiter, even though you adore your husband. Or if you occasionally tell your guy blatantly untrue things, like, "Sure, I think your bald spot is sexy!
" Sound familiar? Fighting, flirting, fibbing — these are all habits that conventional wisdom says are big, fat no-no's in a relationship. But guess what: Everyone does this stuff sometimes — yes, even that couple you know who looks so perfect from the outside. And here's the really good news: A lot of supposedly bad love habits not only aren't bad for you, they just might do your long-term bond a whole lot of good.
Read on to learn how these five love fouls can actually make your relationship stronger, closer, and better than ever.
Flirting It's dangerous, it's wrong — it's the gateway act to cheating. In fact, to some, it is cheating. But the truth is, a little innocent flirting with someone other than your steady can have serious relationship benefits. First of all, the ego boost you get from flirting with someone new can make you feel as sexy as you did when you and your guy first got together. "Over time, couples get so used to each other, they become complacent," says Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D., a psychologist in Los Angeles.
"Flirting with other people brings out the 'Wow!' factor again. It reignites your sexiness and boosts your confidence." The key is that you share the benefits: "You can take that sexy energy home to your husband and use it in the bedroom," says Thomas. What's more, if your guy bears witness to another man showing some flirtatious interest in you now and then, that's not always a bad thing. "A little jealousy is like a wake-up call," says Ted Huston, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Texas and author of When the Honeymoon Is Over: Why Some Marriages Succeed and Others Fail. "It reminds you of how lucky you are to have what you have."
But when does innocent flirting cross the line? Thomas's rule: If you wouldn't do it with your partner present — whether because you think it would embarrass him or because it would cross trust boundaries — don't do it when he's not. And when you do flirt, be honest with yourself about what's behind it: If you find yourself constantly looking forward to flirting with the handsome neighbor you see on your evening jog, you could be sprinting toward trouble.
"Flirting is just part of my DNA and my husband knows it," says Heather, 31, a mother of one in Georgia. "For me, what makes it okay is the intention behind it and what is in my heart. I know my husband is the greatest man and father in the world, and I feel infinitely blessed to have him in my life. Knowing this, I don't feel ashamed to let the flirt in me out every now and then."
Being Selfish
Compromise doesn't mean finding the exact middle ground in every single situation.If there's one piece of relationship wisdom we hear over and over, it's compromise, compromise, compromise. So how can being selfish possibly be good? Here's the key: Compromise doesn't mean finding the exact middle ground in every situation. "Compromise can also mean that this time, you do it 100 percent your way, and next time, you do it 100 percent his way," says Thomas. And it's the doing it your way you should stop feeling bad about.
"Couples think that both partners should give the same amount," says relationship coach Susan Page, author of Why Talking Is Not Enough: 8 Loving Actions That Will Transform Your Marriage. "The problem is, you have no control over what your partner gives."
Yes, in an ideal world, you're each giving the other just what's needed: You cede the remote on Monday nights; he hands over the arts pages on Sunday mornings. But many of the big and small needs we have aren't always obvious, and your man can't read your mind. That's why pinning your happiness on whether or not he gives you what you need when you need it — be it a compliment, time alone, affection that doesn't have to lead to sex, or even a sink that doesn't drip anymore —
well, that's a recipe for frustration and resentment, no matter how much love and how many good intentions you both have. So instead of waiting for him to give you what you need every time, get a little grabby now and then. "Doing some taking as well as giving," says Page, "is a way for you to keep your relationship perfectly balanced."
No, we're not talking about blowing the kids' college funds on a trip to Vegas. We're talking about small gestures that make a big difference to you. If he's stuck at the office when you want to go to your friend's birthday dinner, don't wait for him — just go. If you haven't been getting to watch your own shows lately, TiVo his and tell him he's going to have to wait an hour tonight. If he still hasn't fixed the sink, just hire a plumber already. Don't feel guilty about choosing to put yourself first at moments like these. Taking things for yourself will make you feel satisfied with what you've got, instead of leaving you brewing and stewing over what you're not getting from him. And that'll make you a happier, more loving partner in the long run.
Arguing
Arguing is actually one of the healthiest things you and your guy can do for your relationship.It's true that nonstop battling isn't great for your love. (See the movie The War of the Roses.) And some couples are so worried about the possible negative effects of arguing — Are we tearing apart our bond? Does it mean we're not meant to be? — that they pride themselves on never arguing.
But here's a surprise: Never fighting can be just as bad as constant conflict. In fact, arguing is one of the healthiest things you and your guy can do. Think of fighting as relationship Drano: Once in a while you have to clean out the pipes. Sure, it gets ugly, but afterward, things flow more smoothly. If, on the other hand, you stuff your anger, it eventually builds up so much that it can sabotage your entire relationship. "We are not clones of one another," says Sam R. Hamburg, Ph.D., a Chicago marital therapist and author of Will Our Love Last?: A Couple's Road Map. "It is inevitable that we will disagree from time to time. So either you verbalize your disagreement, or you don't verbalize it and you harbor resentment, which eventually tears you apart."Executed correctly, a fight can even be a tool to advance your cause as a couple. "Arguing doesn't always lead to a consensus," says Huston, "but it's useful to your relationship because it can lead to a clarification of your differences and a solution on how to move past them together." Just remember the "right" way to fight: "The key to a good argument is that you can disagree all you want, but you still show respect to your partner," says Huston.
Stacks and stacks of research have shown that partners who use arguments as an opportunity to criticize each other or show contempt (by, say, rolling their eyes) are far more likely to separate or divorce. "Here's the golden rule I tell my clients about fighting," says REDBOOK Love Network expert Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., author of How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free. "You should only talk about the problem long enough that you both understand what the problem is. Then start working on the solution."
WALKING AWAY ANGRY
Okay, so you're having a "healthy" argument with your guy, and things have gotten superheated. You're getting angrier, your voice is getting louder, and you're saying the same things over and over in an attempt to hammer home your point. Stop and walk away, now. When the fight reaches that fevered pitch, you experience an increased heart rate and a surge in stress hormones, a phenomenon REDBOOK Love Network expert John Gottman, Ph.D., has dubbed "flooding."
"Flooding is a physiological response to the stress of an argument that sends your body into fight-or-flight mode," explains Tessina. "The emotional side of your brain is so aroused that it overtakes your logical side, and you're no longer capable of being productive in the fight."When either of you is flooded, the fight can stray onto ground that isn't just off-topic, but destructive. "Once couples open the floodgates, they start bringing up things that happened years ago, tapping into old feelings of pain and hurt," says Thomas.
"It's in these moments of fury that you blurt out hurtful things you would never say in a calm, clear state of mind." To avoid saying or doing something you might regret, recognize when you're getting flooded and take a time-out.
And since flooding is more typical in men, according to Gottman's research, if you sense that your guy is losing it first, you might use your less-flooded female mind to suggest the time-out yourself."My husband is so bullheaded that we'll get to a point in an argument where nothing is being accomplished, and we're getting madder and madder," says Jennifer, 33, a mother of one from New Jersey. "I finally started telling him I needed a break, and I leave the house for an hour.
When I come back, he's always much calmer and he actually listens to my side."If your fights often escalate quickly, try establishing a cease-fire code. "Make a rule that if one of you makes the time-out hand signal, you'll just stop fighting, no questions asked, and step back until you've both calmed down," suggests Tessina. If it's late at night and you think you're better off sleeping, do that. Yep, you heard us right: Sometimes you should just go to bed angry. One caveat: When you walk away from a fight, don't walk away for good.
"The problem for most couples isn't that their fights are too long, but that they're too short," explains Hamburg. "They walk away from the fight because they're worked up, but then abort the fight altogether because it makes them uncomfortable to restart." Make a commitment that you will discuss the issue again when you both have clearer heads.
LYING
Sometimes telling a little white lie is easier than telling the truth. But watch out for lies that keep things smooth now but lay minefields that could explode later."No, of course your haircut doesn't make you look like Pee-wee Herman." "I love your mother's tuna casserole."
"My ex? Oh, he was terrible in bed." Yes, sometimes telling a little white lie is just easier than telling the truth. And you shouldn't feel too guilty over the occasional fib — when it comes to love, honesty really isn't always the best policy.Let's say your husband meets your new six foot-tall, blue-eyed, former-model coworker Brian at a company party. "Do you find that guy attractive?" he asks on the way home.
What should you say? "Sometimes the subtext of a question is more important than the question itself," says Huston. In this case, what your guy may really be asking is, "Do you still love me and do I need to be worried about our relationship?" That's an easy one, right?Next, ask yourself, Who am I protecting? If a lie would mean protecting yourself and your attraction to Brian, it's unhealthy. If, on the other hand, you're protecting your husband's feelings and want him to feel assured of your love, it's not only understandable to say, "Brian? Ugh, he's boring,"
it may actually be more truthful than if you said, "Sure, I think he's gorgeous — who wouldn't?" "A white lie is beneficial if it is preserving honorable feelings within your relationship — in this case, that you love your husband and would never betray him," says Thomas. "You're lying to uphold a greater truth for a greater good." Just watch out for lies that keep things smooth now but lay minefields that could explode later.
For example, "It's not okay if you're lying to avoid a confrontation that needs to happen," says Tessina, or if not knowing the truth will harm your partner — like if you lie about your personal spending when you and your husband are on a tight budget and saving to buy a house. "Sooner or later the truth will come out," says Tessina. "Not only will the problem be exposed, but the deception will be too, and the deception is the worst part. That's what makes your partner wonder, How can I ever trust you again?" Think about what your partner deserves to hear and "do right by him," says Thomas. If that means saying his beer gut has never looked better, then smile and fib away!
4 GREAT LOVE HABITS TO PICK UP TODAY
Tell each other "I love you" at least once a day. It's like smiling, says Thomas. "Even if you're not feeling very loving, the mere act of saying you love your partner will create that feeling in you."
Give each other check-the-mail time. At the end of the day, each person needs 10 to 20 minutes of what Thomas calls "unwind time" — when you take off your coat, go to the bathroom, check the mail, turn on the news — before being handed the baby or told about the clogged sink. "If you deny each other that alone time, you'll build up resentment that compromises the time you do spend together.
"Touch, touch, and touch."Touch is the gateway to sustaining a connection in a healthy sexual relationship," says Patti Britton, a licensed sex therapist and author of The Art of Sex Coaching. Try a healing touch (rubbing your partner's aching neck), an affectionate touch (a squeeze around the waist), or a sensual touch (running your fingers through his hair).
Let it go. "Most of the things you fight about don't matter a lot," says Hamburg. So when you find yourself dueling over when the kids should eat or who should do the dishes, just flip a coin. Obviously, serious conflict should be dealt with on a more serious level, says Hamburg, "but most of the things couples fight about don't matter a lot either way. Your kids will grow up healthy whether they eat now or later." "Being right is the booby prize of life," Page adds, "because in the end, you haven't really won." So let go and lighten up — you'll both be happier for it.
Raise your hand if you've ever gotten into a stupid fight with your guy and stormed off in a huff. Or if you get a secret rush from flirting with a cute waiter, even though you adore your husband. Or if you occasionally tell your guy blatantly untrue things, like, "Sure, I think your bald spot is sexy!
" Sound familiar? Fighting, flirting, fibbing — these are all habits that conventional wisdom says are big, fat no-no's in a relationship. But guess what: Everyone does this stuff sometimes — yes, even that couple you know who looks so perfect from the outside. And here's the really good news: A lot of supposedly bad love habits not only aren't bad for you, they just might do your long-term bond a whole lot of good.
Read on to learn how these five love fouls can actually make your relationship stronger, closer, and better than ever.
Flirting It's dangerous, it's wrong — it's the gateway act to cheating. In fact, to some, it is cheating. But the truth is, a little innocent flirting with someone other than your steady can have serious relationship benefits. First of all, the ego boost you get from flirting with someone new can make you feel as sexy as you did when you and your guy first got together. "Over time, couples get so used to each other, they become complacent," says Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D., a psychologist in Los Angeles.
"Flirting with other people brings out the 'Wow!' factor again. It reignites your sexiness and boosts your confidence." The key is that you share the benefits: "You can take that sexy energy home to your husband and use it in the bedroom," says Thomas. What's more, if your guy bears witness to another man showing some flirtatious interest in you now and then, that's not always a bad thing. "A little jealousy is like a wake-up call," says Ted Huston, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Texas and author of When the Honeymoon Is Over: Why Some Marriages Succeed and Others Fail. "It reminds you of how lucky you are to have what you have."
But when does innocent flirting cross the line? Thomas's rule: If you wouldn't do it with your partner present — whether because you think it would embarrass him or because it would cross trust boundaries — don't do it when he's not. And when you do flirt, be honest with yourself about what's behind it: If you find yourself constantly looking forward to flirting with the handsome neighbor you see on your evening jog, you could be sprinting toward trouble.
"Flirting is just part of my DNA and my husband knows it," says Heather, 31, a mother of one in Georgia. "For me, what makes it okay is the intention behind it and what is in my heart. I know my husband is the greatest man and father in the world, and I feel infinitely blessed to have him in my life. Knowing this, I don't feel ashamed to let the flirt in me out every now and then."
Being Selfish
Compromise doesn't mean finding the exact middle ground in every single situation.If there's one piece of relationship wisdom we hear over and over, it's compromise, compromise, compromise. So how can being selfish possibly be good? Here's the key: Compromise doesn't mean finding the exact middle ground in every situation. "Compromise can also mean that this time, you do it 100 percent your way, and next time, you do it 100 percent his way," says Thomas. And it's the doing it your way you should stop feeling bad about.
"Couples think that both partners should give the same amount," says relationship coach Susan Page, author of Why Talking Is Not Enough: 8 Loving Actions That Will Transform Your Marriage. "The problem is, you have no control over what your partner gives."
Yes, in an ideal world, you're each giving the other just what's needed: You cede the remote on Monday nights; he hands over the arts pages on Sunday mornings. But many of the big and small needs we have aren't always obvious, and your man can't read your mind. That's why pinning your happiness on whether or not he gives you what you need when you need it — be it a compliment, time alone, affection that doesn't have to lead to sex, or even a sink that doesn't drip anymore —
well, that's a recipe for frustration and resentment, no matter how much love and how many good intentions you both have. So instead of waiting for him to give you what you need every time, get a little grabby now and then. "Doing some taking as well as giving," says Page, "is a way for you to keep your relationship perfectly balanced."
No, we're not talking about blowing the kids' college funds on a trip to Vegas. We're talking about small gestures that make a big difference to you. If he's stuck at the office when you want to go to your friend's birthday dinner, don't wait for him — just go. If you haven't been getting to watch your own shows lately, TiVo his and tell him he's going to have to wait an hour tonight. If he still hasn't fixed the sink, just hire a plumber already. Don't feel guilty about choosing to put yourself first at moments like these. Taking things for yourself will make you feel satisfied with what you've got, instead of leaving you brewing and stewing over what you're not getting from him. And that'll make you a happier, more loving partner in the long run.
Arguing
Arguing is actually one of the healthiest things you and your guy can do for your relationship.It's true that nonstop battling isn't great for your love. (See the movie The War of the Roses.) And some couples are so worried about the possible negative effects of arguing — Are we tearing apart our bond? Does it mean we're not meant to be? — that they pride themselves on never arguing.
But here's a surprise: Never fighting can be just as bad as constant conflict. In fact, arguing is one of the healthiest things you and your guy can do. Think of fighting as relationship Drano: Once in a while you have to clean out the pipes. Sure, it gets ugly, but afterward, things flow more smoothly. If, on the other hand, you stuff your anger, it eventually builds up so much that it can sabotage your entire relationship. "We are not clones of one another," says Sam R. Hamburg, Ph.D., a Chicago marital therapist and author of Will Our Love Last?: A Couple's Road Map. "It is inevitable that we will disagree from time to time. So either you verbalize your disagreement, or you don't verbalize it and you harbor resentment, which eventually tears you apart."Executed correctly, a fight can even be a tool to advance your cause as a couple. "Arguing doesn't always lead to a consensus," says Huston, "but it's useful to your relationship because it can lead to a clarification of your differences and a solution on how to move past them together." Just remember the "right" way to fight: "The key to a good argument is that you can disagree all you want, but you still show respect to your partner," says Huston.
Stacks and stacks of research have shown that partners who use arguments as an opportunity to criticize each other or show contempt (by, say, rolling their eyes) are far more likely to separate or divorce. "Here's the golden rule I tell my clients about fighting," says REDBOOK Love Network expert Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., author of How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free. "You should only talk about the problem long enough that you both understand what the problem is. Then start working on the solution."
WALKING AWAY ANGRY
Okay, so you're having a "healthy" argument with your guy, and things have gotten superheated. You're getting angrier, your voice is getting louder, and you're saying the same things over and over in an attempt to hammer home your point. Stop and walk away, now. When the fight reaches that fevered pitch, you experience an increased heart rate and a surge in stress hormones, a phenomenon REDBOOK Love Network expert John Gottman, Ph.D., has dubbed "flooding."
"Flooding is a physiological response to the stress of an argument that sends your body into fight-or-flight mode," explains Tessina. "The emotional side of your brain is so aroused that it overtakes your logical side, and you're no longer capable of being productive in the fight."When either of you is flooded, the fight can stray onto ground that isn't just off-topic, but destructive. "Once couples open the floodgates, they start bringing up things that happened years ago, tapping into old feelings of pain and hurt," says Thomas.
"It's in these moments of fury that you blurt out hurtful things you would never say in a calm, clear state of mind." To avoid saying or doing something you might regret, recognize when you're getting flooded and take a time-out.
And since flooding is more typical in men, according to Gottman's research, if you sense that your guy is losing it first, you might use your less-flooded female mind to suggest the time-out yourself."My husband is so bullheaded that we'll get to a point in an argument where nothing is being accomplished, and we're getting madder and madder," says Jennifer, 33, a mother of one from New Jersey. "I finally started telling him I needed a break, and I leave the house for an hour.
When I come back, he's always much calmer and he actually listens to my side."If your fights often escalate quickly, try establishing a cease-fire code. "Make a rule that if one of you makes the time-out hand signal, you'll just stop fighting, no questions asked, and step back until you've both calmed down," suggests Tessina. If it's late at night and you think you're better off sleeping, do that. Yep, you heard us right: Sometimes you should just go to bed angry. One caveat: When you walk away from a fight, don't walk away for good.
"The problem for most couples isn't that their fights are too long, but that they're too short," explains Hamburg. "They walk away from the fight because they're worked up, but then abort the fight altogether because it makes them uncomfortable to restart." Make a commitment that you will discuss the issue again when you both have clearer heads.
LYING
Sometimes telling a little white lie is easier than telling the truth. But watch out for lies that keep things smooth now but lay minefields that could explode later."No, of course your haircut doesn't make you look like Pee-wee Herman." "I love your mother's tuna casserole."
"My ex? Oh, he was terrible in bed." Yes, sometimes telling a little white lie is just easier than telling the truth. And you shouldn't feel too guilty over the occasional fib — when it comes to love, honesty really isn't always the best policy.Let's say your husband meets your new six foot-tall, blue-eyed, former-model coworker Brian at a company party. "Do you find that guy attractive?" he asks on the way home.
What should you say? "Sometimes the subtext of a question is more important than the question itself," says Huston. In this case, what your guy may really be asking is, "Do you still love me and do I need to be worried about our relationship?" That's an easy one, right?Next, ask yourself, Who am I protecting? If a lie would mean protecting yourself and your attraction to Brian, it's unhealthy. If, on the other hand, you're protecting your husband's feelings and want him to feel assured of your love, it's not only understandable to say, "Brian? Ugh, he's boring,"
it may actually be more truthful than if you said, "Sure, I think he's gorgeous — who wouldn't?" "A white lie is beneficial if it is preserving honorable feelings within your relationship — in this case, that you love your husband and would never betray him," says Thomas. "You're lying to uphold a greater truth for a greater good." Just watch out for lies that keep things smooth now but lay minefields that could explode later.
For example, "It's not okay if you're lying to avoid a confrontation that needs to happen," says Tessina, or if not knowing the truth will harm your partner — like if you lie about your personal spending when you and your husband are on a tight budget and saving to buy a house. "Sooner or later the truth will come out," says Tessina. "Not only will the problem be exposed, but the deception will be too, and the deception is the worst part. That's what makes your partner wonder, How can I ever trust you again?" Think about what your partner deserves to hear and "do right by him," says Thomas. If that means saying his beer gut has never looked better, then smile and fib away!
4 GREAT LOVE HABITS TO PICK UP TODAY
Tell each other "I love you" at least once a day. It's like smiling, says Thomas. "Even if you're not feeling very loving, the mere act of saying you love your partner will create that feeling in you."
Give each other check-the-mail time. At the end of the day, each person needs 10 to 20 minutes of what Thomas calls "unwind time" — when you take off your coat, go to the bathroom, check the mail, turn on the news — before being handed the baby or told about the clogged sink. "If you deny each other that alone time, you'll build up resentment that compromises the time you do spend together.
"Touch, touch, and touch."Touch is the gateway to sustaining a connection in a healthy sexual relationship," says Patti Britton, a licensed sex therapist and author of The Art of Sex Coaching. Try a healing touch (rubbing your partner's aching neck), an affectionate touch (a squeeze around the waist), or a sensual touch (running your fingers through his hair).
Let it go. "Most of the things you fight about don't matter a lot," says Hamburg. So when you find yourself dueling over when the kids should eat or who should do the dishes, just flip a coin. Obviously, serious conflict should be dealt with on a more serious level, says Hamburg, "but most of the things couples fight about don't matter a lot either way. Your kids will grow up healthy whether they eat now or later." "Being right is the booby prize of life," Page adds, "because in the end, you haven't really won." So let go and lighten up — you'll both be happier for it.
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Things i have to do.
assignment 1 deadline: 2nd April
Neha's bday bbq: 30th March
Ppl whom i have to meet: Sayedah, Eka,Joce,Yan Zhen, Hafeez n Anusha
I love she will be loved by maroon 5... dont ask me why. always did n will.
Spilled sufuric acid on myself today. broke the bottle too. mundane life, mundane stuffs. i miss poly life. i do. i miss having a life. i do. toodlez
assignment 1 deadline: 2nd April
Neha's bday bbq: 30th March
Ppl whom i have to meet: Sayedah, Eka,Joce,Yan Zhen, Hafeez n Anusha
I love she will be loved by maroon 5... dont ask me why. always did n will.
Spilled sufuric acid on myself today. broke the bottle too. mundane life, mundane stuffs. i miss poly life. i do. i miss having a life. i do. toodlez
Thursday, March 20, 2008
another entry, another day. this is going to be rich with words as usual. i am adding pictures into the entries. coz im lazy of typing n now adding on a picture is much faster and easier.
ways my current class has nearly 15 students whom are tp alumni... of that, i believe 9 are my batchmates. seems a lil like old days. furthermore ol's friend is my classmate. gosh, the memories.ol or orientation leader is zul fadly. we juz used nicknames. easier. seeing him is like the old days man.
yes, im nostalgic. im thnkin of shahdon, sidah,sandy,angela,tim,terry,ian,ana...
haha.. i miss lepak-in at the batu with shahdon.. n we never joget kat plaza. n we never tried all the food frm itas canteen.*sulks* i miss my choc chip muffin. i miss my apple n aloe vera juice n barley! oh n py... n miss tan n mct n te with tt stupid blue shoe covers which was always reused... n how we wld wear slippers n go gross its wet. haha.. i miss poly life la.. i miss learning bio!
oh i bumped into kabetha(?) and maivilli. maivilli is d same bt kabetha... woah.. she has changed. her dressing was like a dancer n was surprised to see her in jz a tube. bt salute her for being confident. n apparently she is with a chinese guy? facts need to be checked. n i keep on seeing faizal like everywk. err n i realize i noe alot of faizal's with diff variation of name. sianz.... n i really miss those blue shoe covers n dr lim. ah... i miss that lab! n all those alcohol we sprayed here n there...keke...n this ends this random entry.
ways my current class has nearly 15 students whom are tp alumni... of that, i believe 9 are my batchmates. seems a lil like old days. furthermore ol's friend is my classmate. gosh, the memories.ol or orientation leader is zul fadly. we juz used nicknames. easier. seeing him is like the old days man.
yes, im nostalgic. im thnkin of shahdon, sidah,sandy,angela,tim,terry,ian,ana...
haha.. i miss lepak-in at the batu with shahdon.. n we never joget kat plaza. n we never tried all the food frm itas canteen.*sulks* i miss my choc chip muffin. i miss my apple n aloe vera juice n barley! oh n py... n miss tan n mct n te with tt stupid blue shoe covers which was always reused... n how we wld wear slippers n go gross its wet. haha.. i miss poly life la.. i miss learning bio!
oh i bumped into kabetha(?) and maivilli. maivilli is d same bt kabetha... woah.. she has changed. her dressing was like a dancer n was surprised to see her in jz a tube. bt salute her for being confident. n apparently she is with a chinese guy? facts need to be checked. n i keep on seeing faizal like everywk. err n i realize i noe alot of faizal's with diff variation of name. sianz.... n i really miss those blue shoe covers n dr lim. ah... i miss that lab! n all those alcohol we sprayed here n there...keke...n this ends this random entry.
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
hmm... sumthng wrng with blogger? i have no idea. the week is flying fast. thank god for tt. bt i dread the period after this week. not any hols till may when there is 2 of em and then sch hols. well i hate my work. yes, it is a paradise bt unfortunately i get bored too easily n yes i am tired of preparing chemicals and topping them up. i need something challenging. though it will exhaust me, i guess it will satisfy me. i love cracking my brains. its sumthng tt i look forward to which is why perhaps i do enjoy learning things. this doesnt apply to maths. never will.
mansha bday on sunday. love u princess.
taken during her 1st bday n now she is....
3rd yr on earth.. much loved by all being the youngest. oldest being 31 and the youngest 3. yes, the manikam men are virile even at the age of 40.
n the much needed slumber beckons. my eye bags are bad. evidence is as attached.
Wednesday, March 12, 2008
Friday, March 7, 2008
A's out today. Apparently there has been a drop in results for most school. Many are gearing for students who get hysterical. Can imagine the students' anxiety. Their fate being decided by a small sheet of paper. The power it yields to decide your future and destiny. and once again, this chase for paper. Is it that crucial? i study coz i see no other way. If given a choice, i will want to go into the performing arts which of course is not lucrative in asia and definitely not something my parents will want me to do. If given a chance, i will choose to do stuffs like sociology or forensics. once again, not something that has much jobs in singapore.
paper struggle aside, current affairs in singapore. Mas selamat escape. Seriously deep down, i have alot of questions and sense loopholes in the so not complete story released by MFA or whichever Ministry it is. Why wasnt what he was wearing released to the public in the 1st statement? that is definitely helpful. and the confusion about his limp. Why tell he limps in his left leg n then few days later, say its evident only if he walks fast or run... like hello, why is he running? stupid right? then the commission, err why issit a Singapore based council and ppl involved in the police n ? police, ministry shld nt even be involved. judicial seems okie to give the light on laws. I guess a foreign consultant should be there right? maybe a human rights person, an external security company or somesort. how to rule out biasness reporting? or any exclusion? where is the transparency?
and kinda silly la. he goes to toilet and escapes after 2 yrs of detaining... if u tell me after 6 months or so, i will believe the story. He takes 2 years to plot? hello, i doubt he is that stupid man. n the guy shot down at outram. I wonder whether there will be a commission set up to study the situation. Meanwhile is the police officer who did that given counselling? It should not be easy for him. i hope he is also placed on suspension. was there a necessity to open fire in that situation? In a mrt station no less with people around. imagine all the people around there. It is not an everyday scene. and furthermore was there any kids around?
Its getting very interesting now. so much juicy stuffs. so much mind wrecking things.
paper struggle aside, current affairs in singapore. Mas selamat escape. Seriously deep down, i have alot of questions and sense loopholes in the so not complete story released by MFA or whichever Ministry it is. Why wasnt what he was wearing released to the public in the 1st statement? that is definitely helpful. and the confusion about his limp. Why tell he limps in his left leg n then few days later, say its evident only if he walks fast or run... like hello, why is he running? stupid right? then the commission, err why issit a Singapore based council and ppl involved in the police n ? police, ministry shld nt even be involved. judicial seems okie to give the light on laws. I guess a foreign consultant should be there right? maybe a human rights person, an external security company or somesort. how to rule out biasness reporting? or any exclusion? where is the transparency?
and kinda silly la. he goes to toilet and escapes after 2 yrs of detaining... if u tell me after 6 months or so, i will believe the story. He takes 2 years to plot? hello, i doubt he is that stupid man. n the guy shot down at outram. I wonder whether there will be a commission set up to study the situation. Meanwhile is the police officer who did that given counselling? It should not be easy for him. i hope he is also placed on suspension. was there a necessity to open fire in that situation? In a mrt station no less with people around. imagine all the people around there. It is not an everyday scene. and furthermore was there any kids around?
Its getting very interesting now. so much juicy stuffs. so much mind wrecking things.
Wednesday, March 5, 2008
i am not supposed to be blogging since i have a paper that starts in less than 6 hrs. time is running out and so do i feel like giving up. There is just too much mechanism to learn for Ethan's part. It is seriously a pain in the arse.
I miss writing in proper english. It has been sometime. I shall start to make an effort after i read two blogs while on my meandering surfing, no less by malaysian uni students. Their blogs were well written with no singlish. Well looks like we should be embarrassed since after all, we being their neighbors have always 'boasted' about our english medium schools. you get my drift.
I am looking forward to 9 or 10pm this evening as it marks the end of my yr 2 chem modules. I am a step closer to completing my yr 2 stuffs. This will make it my 5th yr 2 module. If i was in australia, i will be done by the end of next year. Unfortunately due to my 'poverty', i am not able to do so or yet to. August seems promising. But with the time flying past and no response frm UWA, hope is dwindling.
Unfortunately the paper ends late and i am back to the working world tomorrow which i hate tons. I hate waking up so early. I cant survive in a job that starts before 9. That is when my brain starts working. Looks like only this wkend can i fully get the well deserved break...
Bioinformatics' timetable seems promising. Grp A it will be. a home alone weekend. how very boring. with nobody promising to spent time with. i dont wish to complain but why do i feel like my life is deplorable? There should be something exciting about working life. Yes, it is not gonna be scandalous or happening like schooling days but it cant be the same everyday. Ritz was different. this definitely means i cant go into a lab or else i will die outta boredom. oh well, worry later. outz
I miss writing in proper english. It has been sometime. I shall start to make an effort after i read two blogs while on my meandering surfing, no less by malaysian uni students. Their blogs were well written with no singlish. Well looks like we should be embarrassed since after all, we being their neighbors have always 'boasted' about our english medium schools. you get my drift.
I am looking forward to 9 or 10pm this evening as it marks the end of my yr 2 chem modules. I am a step closer to completing my yr 2 stuffs. This will make it my 5th yr 2 module. If i was in australia, i will be done by the end of next year. Unfortunately due to my 'poverty', i am not able to do so or yet to. August seems promising. But with the time flying past and no response frm UWA, hope is dwindling.
Unfortunately the paper ends late and i am back to the working world tomorrow which i hate tons. I hate waking up so early. I cant survive in a job that starts before 9. That is when my brain starts working. Looks like only this wkend can i fully get the well deserved break...
Bioinformatics' timetable seems promising. Grp A it will be. a home alone weekend. how very boring. with nobody promising to spent time with. i dont wish to complain but why do i feel like my life is deplorable? There should be something exciting about working life. Yes, it is not gonna be scandalous or happening like schooling days but it cant be the same everyday. Ritz was different. this definitely means i cant go into a lab or else i will die outta boredom. oh well, worry later. outz
Monday, March 3, 2008
end of chem in 2 days time exactly... back to living, breathing bio.. familiar territory so i cant wait...
outta sheer boredom, i did somethng i shldnt.... oh well... nth bad will happen.
oh well... jz to pen some words.
wanna do an entry abt flashing lights abt kanye... bt i aint in d mood to dig out the lyrics n all... interesting video though n lyrics... a woman killing her superstar bf because he cheated on her. she burnt wtever he gave her... n the clothes she was wearing... looks like there are still some who treasure relationships more than money. kanye west is 1.
outta sheer boredom, i did somethng i shldnt.... oh well... nth bad will happen.
oh well... jz to pen some words.
wanna do an entry abt flashing lights abt kanye... bt i aint in d mood to dig out the lyrics n all... interesting video though n lyrics... a woman killing her superstar bf because he cheated on her. she burnt wtever he gave her... n the clothes she was wearing... looks like there are still some who treasure relationships more than money. kanye west is 1.
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